Beyond Fear: The Art of Feeling Everything and Staying Grounded.
This is the duality of life.
The world is a heavy place.
The real pandemic that lives deeply ingrained in the minds of the population is fear. And it is used in every system found on this planet, and it’s the most powerful tool there is. Fear is at the forefront of it all.
Fear cripples our soul.
And at time, even after many deep breathes, and trying to gain back my personal power, It feels like life won’t let me, and the world becomes really heavy.
It feels very uncomfortable, and unsafe.
It feels suffocating. It feels toxic.
And the reminder to be grounded, to remember my values, to remember my femininity… becomes really important.
In these moments, it’s not about pretending that all is good, to suppress emotions, it’s to feel life through.
No harsh moves, no impulsive decisions, no avoidance behaviors…
This is where we learn our most valuable lesson, the ability to regulate our nervous systems. The ability to chose to take these moments, and to find the beauty of life.
These moments of growth that are challenging, arduous and plain hard, AND having the ability to understand that life is full of magical moments of happiness, bliss, love and sensuality, amongst the hardship.
I have learned that there will always be a feeling of both light and dark, at the same time.
And ever since I’ve accepted that I couldn’t avoid or escape the feeling of disappointment, frustration, anger and sadness…
I allow myself to feel both at the same time, and be okay with it.
It doesn’t mean that the suffocation feeling is minimized or is easier.
But I know that this is an important duality to life.
As a woman, we have been programmed to believe that we’re not allowed to feel those difficult moments, or feel anything at all. And when we do feel; we are coined as being overly emotional or that we have to mind over matter our daily decisions.
But in reality, if we learned how to regulate our emotions from a young age, we would never have grown to have been overly emotional. Life will not always be sunshine and rainbows, and we can’t manipulate situations to make us feel like it will be.
Some things are out of our control, but what we can control is how we chose to respond to our current circumstances and situations. It is uncomfortable, and at time it can totally suck, and at the same time it can entirely change the woman you become along the way (in a good way).
And so, the next time you are tempted to overreact, freak-out, or assume that life is against you. Take a deep breath, and regulate your nervous system by calming down.
Stand firm in what you believe, stop fighting against the things that seems against you (because most time that’s a very big trigger). And know that life bring both light and dark, learning to ride the wave will bring much more inner peace than you could have every imagined possible.
Allow yourself to be happy even when the world doesn’t want you to be.
Contemplation: What is the “thing” you are fighting against that is taking away all your energy and personal power? How can you stand in your values or beliefs instead of fighting? What can you chose instead?
